So, you’re engaged! Congratulations. It’s a wonderful time in anyone’s life. And that’s exactly as it should be. You’ve found your perfect partner, and you can’t wait to begin your married life together.What could be more exciting? You’ve got the whole of the rest of your lives ahead of you, and by getting engaged, you’re laying the foundations of a long and happy union.
So where do you even begin to start organising your big day? It’s a common mistake to get carried away - after all it is exciting - but you need to sort the basics first. No point in shopping for favours when you haven’t actually booked any tables to put them on!
The most important practical factor when it comes to organizing your big day is the budget. Unless your family have a big stash of cash, these days it’s less frequent for the family of the bride to foot the bill. How much money you have to spend will influence your decisions, and make some of them a whole lot easier! However much you want to have the most incredible wedding day, it’s not a sensible idea to rack up debt. Especially if it’s going to take you half of your married life to pay it off.
Booking everything as far in advance of the actual day you’re tying the knot is imperative. Wedding venues, caterers, photographers and entertainers can be booked up to a year or even longer in advance. Their peak seasons for business is wedding season, so you need to act quickly to secure the things you really want. It’s unlikely you’ll get your first, or second choices if you leave it until the last minute to try and book them. A good quality wedding photographer or band doesn’t tend to be available at short notice!
Deciding where and when you are going to have your big day is vital. Make you sure you can give friends and family in far-flung spaces as much notice as you can, too. They may need time to prepare for travel arrangements (flights aren’t cheap!), or even just have a chance to book holiday leave from work.
Deciding who to invite on the big day can be a minefield. It can be a source of contention for lots of couples. Maybe you don’t like his friends, or he doesn’t like yours. Maybe you both come from big families and deciding if you can invite every auntie and uncle will mean less of your own friends there. What do you do? If parents are paying for the wedding, it’s a good idea to ask their opinions, especially when it comes to family matters. If you’re paying for your own, then you are less obliged to invite the entire family. But do tread carefully, you don’t want to upset anyone or cause divisions!
Planning a wedding can be nerve wracking. You should be feeling fabulous at this exciting time! Don’t be overwhelmed. Just take things one step at a time and remember why you are getting married in the first place!